Change Is An Uncomfortable, But Vital Component To Our Life Experience

Change is meant to be uncomfortable. I am seeing this in my own life experiences.

Change. Something that can either be a welcoming experience or a terrible nightmare you are just dying to come out of. No matter how you see change, expect to go through some very uncomfortable situations. In my honest opinion, I do not think anyone - no matter how risk-taking or reserved you are - is ready for any change that comes into their lives. Whether it is planned or unplanned, change involves going through twists and turns that can make any human want to throw in the towel. However, we must not "dodge the bullet" or force change, because, for one, we are denying ourselves the vital experience that change brings! I am seeing this firsthand, as many things about me have changed. I am requiring more alone time than usual, I am in the process of altering the way I think, I am realizing that I am solely responsible for my actions, I am realizing that I have further to go in my life experiences, I am realizing that life is impermanent. 

One of the most vital, yet uncomfortable - components of change is the realization that you may be holding your own self back from executing change in your life. It sucks, right? It's kind of like a shot to your pride knowing that you can be holding yourself back more than anyone else. Despite this, you should use this to better yourself and not let it eat you alive. Changes in your life are unique to you, therefore you hold the key to your own change. The key to conquering change is to let it happen. There are no secrets or special tricks to quicken the process. You must face it, along with trying to not to compare your progress to others. You want your significant other? It will happen. You want that dream job? It will happen. You want to pay off debt, go on that vacation, make new friends? It will happen. Above all of this, you must foster change for yourself, and understand that these uncomfortable situations are impermanent. 

Prior to typing this post, I came across an article on Thought Catalog from December 2015 titled, 16 Uncomfortable Feelings That Actually Indicate You’re On The Right Path. In all honesty, I am dealing with all sixteen of these feelings listed. However, I did not react with anger towards this. If anything, it brought a sense of clarity to me, in the sense that I am not forcing my change, I am letting it happen. You can do the same, too. All of us can conquer the changes that come into our life. We are and have already conquered many things in our lives, and sometimes we do not even realize it. Listed below are the sixteen uncomfortable feelings that I read in the article. Have you experienced or are you experiencing any of these thoughts?:

1. Feeling as though you are reliving your childhood struggles.
2. Feeling “lost,” or directionless. 
3. “Left brain” fogginess. 
4. Having random influxes of irrational anger or sadness that intensify until you can’t ignore them anymore.
5. Experiencing unpredictable and scattered sleeping patterns
6. A life-changing event is taking place, or just has.
7. Having an intense need to be alone. 
8. Intense, vivid dreaming that you almost always remember in detail.
9. Downsizing your friend group; feeling more and more uncomfortable around negative people.
10. Feeling like the dreams you had for your life are collapsing.
11. Feeling as though your worst enemy is your thoughts.
12. Feeling unsure of who you really are.
13. Recognizing how far you still have to go.
14. “Knowing” things you don’t want to know.
15. Having a radically intense desire to speak up for yourself. 
16. Realizing you are the only person responsible for your life, and your happiness. 

As mentioned earlier, I am currently going through all sixteen of the feelings. Interestingly enough, I can attribute to some of these feelings to me being an old soul and an empath. For instance, I have always been "feeling lost", as if I should not have been born in my generation, which attributes to me being an old soul. As for my empathic abilities, the "left brain" fogginess is definitely something that I am going through, because sometimes my intuition can be really high, and I often feel things that I do not want to feel. Also, I have been losing focus to the point that I have suffered from extreme cases of writer's block (haha). I could go on and on about how all of these points greatly relate to my experience, but I think you all get the point. 

To wrap things up, DO NOT BE AFRAID OF CHANGE. I know this sounds a little cliche, but it worth reminding you all (and myself!) of this. Understand that any situation you go through in life is not permanent, because our existence as human beings is not permanent. Once we all gain a better understanding of this idea, we become more conscious and understanding of our existence.

Until next time, folks. Capping off with today's End of Blog Song, "It's Possible" by Piero Piccioni & Catherine Howe!

Works Cited:

Wiest, Brianna. “16 Uncomfortable Feelings That Actually Indicate You're On The Right Path.” Thought Catalog, Thought Catalog, 9 Nov. 2018, thoughtcatalog.com/brianna-wiest/2015/12/16-uncomfortable-feelings-that-actually-indicate-youre-on-the-right-path/.